rosesarered - My daughter is not allowed to know my address , my daughter said she is not seeing that boyfriend any more and yes I told them about him , thank you for your support
legray22 - What do you expect me to do - I cannot drag her to meetings , force her to have counselling , tell her who to hang out with , force her to get help and believe me the whole family have tried , and tried and tried! It may help if she was HONEST with me but that does not seem possible right now as she will say she has stopped drinking and is fine and once I find out it is not true she won't broach the subject at all because everything is 'still fine' and all the encouragement and support I did give her did NOTHING to stop her drinking - I even lived with her for 5 months and took care of her as well as my Grandson but ended up with complete burnout and ill myself and have done everything I can think of to support her
radicalnan - They have offered to pay for my Grandsons taxi fares home , his school transport will drop him at my daughters house , I get there just beforehand , supervise contact and then we go home but I am happy that it is in a home environment even though he has already said no he does not want to go as it may be starting as soon as tomorrow
Belinda49 - Not half!! I am so happy I have this support on here!
ajanela - I took all the dental appointment dates , addresses and contact numbers along with me to the meeting today and also added his opticians appointment to the list
Unco-operative with who? My daughter? If so what can I do? She is a 31 year old adult and I do feel for her but I can't let that feeling come in the way of protecting my Grandson if she is not managing to stay sober , which I can't make her do
Skweek1 - I am so sorry to hear what happened to you!
At the meeting today the manager said if my GS is having increasing meltdowns then they ''have to look at the placement'' in other words if he has more emotional reactions due to this it will be MY fault which makes me feel she has no understanding of Autism tbh
quizqueen - I can just about get him on the bus but he hates the crowds and noise etc due to his Autism and if he gets distressed and starts making his 'unhappy noises' I get people staring , tutting and being downright rude and I already have a stressed little boy on my hands so the tutting etc makes things worse , saying that I am working on it for short journeys atm and he is doing well and we can gradually increase it but my daughter lives 10 miles and 2 buses away so it would be hell
In a taxi he is so calm and happy and relaxed so am glad they have supported this and agreed to pay his taxi fares home
Suze56 - Yes I have yet to speak to my fostering social worker but I will be ringing her in the next few days to update her etc
If my daughter is under the influence contact is suspended immediately
She has agreed to be breathalysed but social services do not require it , contact will be at her home now , so I will get there early and when he arrives will either go and do something fun with him as a plan B or take him home , whichever he is up to / for if she is not home ( we have been here before so to speak and I always had a plan B if she did not show but then I also had to deal with the emotional fall out for him afterwards as of course he was disappointed if he is expecting to see her )
starbird - It has to start immediately , possibly as soon as tomorrow , no option at all to 'delay' it , there is nothing to worry about re my health - I have not even needed to see my own doctor for the whole 2 years little one has been here and I would have if I needed to but I have no health conditions and usually just get the usual coughs and colds etc
I wore a beautiful dress to the meeting which I got complimented for twice on the way home! lol some make up and the manager even said ''wow'' when she saw me , not that I feel it helps anything but you never know lol
icanhandthemback - Thank you for your lovely comments you are so right at least this should prevent him from being bounced back and forth which can happen
It's like I have to go to the moon and back to keep my Grandson with me and he is an absolute treasure but he does have some difficulties which are not easy to handle and which are probably set to get worse with puberty etc but I am prepared for that and to see him through all his hard times because I love him so much but they seem to think at 10 years old with learning difficulties and some behaviour problems he will be 'snapped up' for adoption and they will be doing me a huge favour if they let him stay with me so this is always hanging over my head and they said he would be 'easy to place' but tbh I do have my doubts on that one
ap123 - I am in very good health apart from being a bit overweight but it does not cause me any problems ( stress eater ) they were fine about the transport as it is 10 miles from home and my only concern raised was about the possible emotional / mental impact this huge change will have on him but I did not object as such , it completely backfired on me anyway as she said if he has extra meltdowns there must be a reason for it at home ( I don't know whether to laugh or cry at that one )
Contact at my home is not possible , they told me if my daughter found out where I lived my GS would be removed immediately but then today asked why it is not an option to have it at my house but did not give me a chance to answer lol
Iam64 - I may need to PM you as I do not fully understand what is going on tbh lol
I have tried logging on to the FRG to get some help on the forum but it locked me out as I forgot my password so they are still sorting that out
Madmeg - They are not just ticking boxes but doing it so urgently now that there is no time to breathe lol
Supernan - You are right , how about asking my GS how he feels about it all? The bottom line currently is he want to live with Nanny and still see Mummy and was happy with that arrangement ( once a week ) until he was told by his Mum he has his room at her house now which threw him off course into confusion