My little GC has just started to see his Daddy (my DS) after court proceedings lasting a year.
His mother tried every dirty tactic in the book (written her own book in fact!) to stop this - finally court saw through it all and warned they'll throw their own book at her if she doesn't comply.
That's so far and nearly £10,000 ... and now I too have seen my DGC. But, an old Mum here's 'inkling' something not altogether healthy and possibly worrying maybe going on.
19 months DGC has been extremely sleepy and tired during the contacts... first time: last week was asleep like a sack of potatoes for two solid hours after a morning handover; sweets fell out a pocket; very very hungry; then found my bedroom and wanted to lie down to go back to sleep. Didn't want to leave his Daddy and seemed to be anxious about going: I got a distinct impression DGC was hungry again and didn't want to leave "where there was food".
This week a more normal 40 mins nap, but 'smelling of sweets' and was so thirsty that hardly ate any lunch; picked up toys and was pointing them like a gun; tired again after very little activity.
I may be old thus way out of touch in the eyes of young mothers ... but this is distinctly different to the levels of activity, appetite etc of my own DSs at this age who were mainly 'on the go' all day and ready for a healthy lunch/tea and tuckered out themselves out for a 5-6pm bedtime.
We know perfectly well this little GC is not having any routine and from little information forthcoming is fed a series of inadequately-nutritional snacks through the day until 'teatime' and those tea time foods are not adequate for a growing toddler. Certainly, not choke-hazard-sized sweets routinely first thing in the morning or at all. I wonder if crisps are being fed before 'contact' handover....
But the tiredness - I think could be poor sleep routines (also being kept up the night before to wreck 'Dad's contact' / poss a 'Mickey Finn' of Calpol / Boots Toddler Antihistamine / blood-sugar dips.
IN anyone's else's (grand) parenting experience - where does one draw the line and say, this is a pattern... AND/OR some aspects are more concerning than others ... where does one "go with this" ?
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