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Advice re winding up estate.

(160 Posts)
HUNTERF Thu 21-Mar-13 11:23:12

Just had a phone call from a lady in her late 30's.
Her mother has passed away and her father passed away some years ago.
There is a will.
The problem is she does not know where the money is but she knows the house is owned by her mother.
The only help I can think of giving her is to offer to help to search the house for evidence of money. I will not feel comfortable looking through other people's cupboards but I will do it if she wants me to.
Anybody got any other suggestions.
When my father passed away I had his money recorded on a spread sheet and I knew exactly where it was. I just think there is a chance a Gransnetter has been in this situation.

Frank

Anne58 Thu 21-Mar-13 17:54:36

I thought I recently posted something about Frank, the Movie but may be wrong.

shysal Thu 21-Mar-13 17:58:49

Apparently one of the most popular places for hiding valuables is the freezer.
I agree it would be a good idea to check beneath and behind the bottom drawer of a chest.
However, I don't think it should be you doing the searching, Frank.

j08 Thu 21-Mar-13 18:05:14

gracesmum I don't think I mocked you. I most likely told you what I thought about your winding up of Frank and getting enjoyment of it.

j08 Thu 21-Mar-13 18:06:00

Nonu you been a burgular in a previous life?

j08 Thu 21-Mar-13 18:07:04

Ah no!!! You mean you hide things there!

Galen Thu 21-Mar-13 19:00:44

Very good for bodies as well if you want to falsify the time of death. eg. If 7year rule applies for lifetime gifts!

gracesmum Thu 21-Mar-13 19:26:56

Actually, j08, I was the person trying to plead for some toleration for *Frank because I felt he was being ganged up on - and I was virtually accused of "fancying" him angry when just trying to be on the side of the underdog , but I realise nowFrank can stand up for himself.

Nonu Thu 21-Mar-13 19:51:52

No doubt about that at all GRace , he sure can .

moon

Anne58 Thu 21-Mar-13 19:53:49

I'm pretty certain that Frank does hold his own. wink

Nonu Thu 21-Mar-13 20:06:52

Er JO8 NO, But I read a lot of crime fiction and have to say seems a good place to hide things .

All my booty is in tins , in case of fire

moon

HUNTERF Thu 21-Mar-13 20:12:17

Hi gracesmum

I am not looking for another wife.

Frank

Stansgran Thu 21-Mar-13 20:13:23

Actually I think Mishap is right .i had to deal with an elderly uncles estate. He had written a letter to me saying there was a will and although the "kind and friendly" neighbours who had a key had thoroughly searched the house and carefully polished the furniture they wished to appropriate they had not found anything. They believed that they were major beneficiaries in his estate. In the end I remembered a hiding place in his desk where he kept the family Bible with his will and his bank books. The solicitors told me that this scenario was not uncommon even in this day and age. Surely if Frank is taking the mick out of the gransnetters then perhaps the GNs shouldn't rise to the provocation. If he isn't then being unkind demeans us. ,unless you have had experience of the extraordinary length s people will go to to inherit a nest of tables or set of stepladders you may find Franks travails ludicrous but I'm not surprised.

HUNTERF Thu 21-Mar-13 20:28:10

Hi Stansgran

You may have read that my 1 daughter has my will in her bank and the other has a certified copy of my will in her bank.
I have worded my wills that if my daughters are not alive then my son's in law will get their share of the estate and I will probably set new wills up to skip a generation at some point.
Unfortunately there are a lot of selfish gold diggers in the world and my belief is all money should stay within the family so that is why I will not get married again.

Frank

Nonu Thu 21-Mar-13 20:29:33

confused

absent Thu 21-Mar-13 20:45:41

Frank Has anyone asked you to marry her?

Galen Thu 21-Mar-13 20:46:51

hmm

absent Thu 21-Mar-13 20:48:27

And if you did remarry, wouldn't your wife be part of the family?

j08 Thu 21-Mar-13 20:49:54

I'm quite certain I wouldn't have accused you of "fancying" anyone Gracesmum! hmm

I can't believe that posters are discussing another poster's mental health on here! Frank can read you know! shock

Ana Thu 21-Mar-13 20:52:50

Beat me to it, Jingl. I don't think we should be discussing the possible mental health issues of any member on an open forum.

Ana Thu 21-Mar-13 20:57:17

Or any forum, for that matter.

Galen Thu 21-Mar-13 21:46:04

The ladies of this forum
Constitute a quorum
So what they decide must be fair
Teasing Frank is bad
And though ii might be sad
In future, we should forbear!

Anne58 Thu 21-Mar-13 21:48:05

Please can someone remind me who it was that was planning to meet up with Frank ? I seem to remember the coffee shop in John Lewis was mentioned?

Galen Thu 21-Mar-13 21:50:46

Not me!

Ana Thu 21-Mar-13 22:18:13

It was Orca.

Orca Thu 21-Mar-13 22:25:41

Yes, 'twas me ('twas I?) but nothing came if it ...the offer is still open but I think I've scared him off!