Be kind

Sarahmob - I agree with that sentiment.
Didn't mean to get off on the wrong foot.
Have a good day everyone

Rufus The last paragraph of my post at 12:28:24 picks up how, once relationships with some posters goes wrong, that colours their reaction to everything posted by the one they fell out with. It is the same in real life - sometimes a certain person just can't be right for being wrong. That is clear from some of the threads on estranged family members, where what was said in anger years ago is still the dominating theme.

Each thread should be a separate conversation, without animosity leaking in from previous ones, but human nature does have a long memory.

I'm happy to be kind, until someone is unkind to me or mine. Then I bite back. Same on GN as in real life .

Welcome Jo61 but don't expect total kindness and understanding.
It's very easy, as I have discovered to my cost, to say something seemingly innocent only to find I have offended half a dozen people and am labelled passive aggressive whatever that means

How can you be too old Annsixty ? that makes no sense. All ages on here.

I have learned so much since joining a couple of years ago, it's a lifeline and met some of you in RL which is a bonus..

Oh yes, elegran, thanks for the reminder about Grannynet!

Jingl often had a few choice words to say about it.

It’s very hard to reply objectively to some posts, because we only ever hear one side of a problem. Sometimes you can read between the lines a bit, but even then, it’s impossible to see the whole picture.

I think a lot of grandmothers forget what it’s like to be a daughter in law, or a busy working mum, not everything resolves around us, and neither should it.

I m as dumb as dumb I have no idea what thread you’re all referring to and I ve no idea about posters who change their names I have a job remembering one lot of pen names with out remembering two
I m not sure what you’re answer to me meant about grandchild’s savings Jo61 and not at all sure why we are in Meet ups
This is a bit like being in a parallel universe ???

I have no idea either BlueBelle!

I go very carefully as I have witnessed bullying and stalking (not of myself but others) and it is just plain unkind.

I agree with Kitty and others a new poster should take a softly softly approach when joining GN to find their feet and settle in.

annsixty please don’t go. ?

Oh dear wasn't expecting this response Goodbye all

Urmstongran I had no idea that Meghan had had surgery on her nose.
I always admire her nose, it's lovely.
Now, if I wasn't so nervous I might have had surgery myself after someone made a comment about mine.

Sorry, off piste
But it is what it's call 'a ski slope nose'.

Jo61

Not a final goodbye I hope.

but human nature does have a long memory.
Elegran Thanks for that! The ones I have in mind are called "Grudges"
OoRoo

Be kind? Do we have to? Where's the fun in that? Next, it'll be 'Be positive! No negative thoughts allowed!', then 'Be polite, no naughty words' etc.

Jo61, you say ' Surely we can express our thoughts without fearing backlash' - well of course we can, there is nothing to fear in the written words of strangers.

I wish to express my thoughts with freedom, though. I don't want to restrict myself in case I offend somebody so sensitive that they should maybe avoid forums. We need to keep it real!

why is this dictat in Meet Ups.
I was expecting a pained report about how a group of GNers had started a fracas in a genteel coffee shop and been turned out, bringing ill-repute on all our heads.

Good idea, sounds like fun so just let me know where and when the granny riot is!

anyone remember gangster gran ?

At least half of the fiery exchanges on here are caused by someone getting the wrong end of the stick and misunderstanding
Elegran And who decides who's got the right end of the stick!?

May I point out that talking about a thread from another thread is against GN rules
Kalu May I point out that in my opinion that's a stupid rule. What purpose does it serve apart from restricting free flow of ideas across the GN debating spectrum.?
Also does that prevent me from airing excellent jokes from GreatNan's thread? Surely not!
OoRoo

'nothing to fear in the written word' l think that people can be wounded by both written and spoken word. Remember you know nothing of the person reading a response, nothing if their physical or mental issues. I think that posters must take responsibility for the impact of their comments. I did read the other day 'in a world where you can be anything, be kind'. That doesn't seem to be a bad motto to me.

I never know what's going on when people refer to 'some posters', 'the usual suspects' or 'some threads' or 'bullying'. It reminds me of being at school and being told that 'there is a thief in our midst'.

Everyone either feels worried, whether they are guilty or not, or that they are somehow not part of things and that everyone knows something they don't.

I don’t make the rules Rufus

May I point you in the direction of GNHQ. The Rule Makers.

I would be bored stupid if everyone made a real effort to be kind.

We should be able to debate and exchange views without resorting to personal insults but we should have free speech on here.

There's a simple solution for those who find it upsetting, just do something else!

Also does that prevent me from airing excellent jokes from GreatNan's thread? Surely not!

Nobody owns a thread Rufus so while our late friend GreatNan started a “Jokes” thread many years ago before her sad death, I think anybody is free to post or repost whatever they want on any thread without prior permission.

May I point you in the direction of GNHQ. The Rule Makers
Kalu You don't have to and I didn't say you made them You just follow orders!
GNHQ should know what I think of their Rules, Guidelines, Commandments, Epistles; call them what you will, but cull and modernise what's left.
I don't mind what anyone calls me as long as it's not spiteful or crude. A strong, good- natured debate should be lively and at least show that we're not brain-dead!
OoRoo