Widowhood.

Oh nannieroz11 how strange! it send goosebumps down me when I just read it, wonder how far away you are from Llandudno? who knows maybe in time ... we may all meet!! in Llandudno and share our memories, I know Falcon that you are quite away away from Llandudno but who knows!! nannieroz would love to share your memories when the time is right for you to do so...(whenever that may be)

When I was out on Wednesday building the arbour (oh that reminds me I shall put picy on later I forgot) but we have seagulls over here, even though we are about an hour from the seaside, but when I closed my eyes I can pretend I am at Llandudno, they are happy memories from earlier years, but it makes me cry when I think of the last time we were there, but I am hoping that I will be able to face going one day.

We did start going with my mum and dad and had some lovely days we stayed at 4 hotels on the front as I like a sea view room.
The Marina (was ok but don't think I would stay again0
The Kensington (would stay again)
Tyndale hotel (deff stay again)
The Iris (was ok and had to stay there when I booked the wrong weekend dooh) but it was ok as had groundfloor big bedroom with single bed and double bed. The Tyndale is very nice (take a peek on google) there was entertainments every night, bit of bingo (not my scene) and lovely food!

Ok I am not off to Asda on my bike, making spag bol for DDs tea. take care all, hope your days not too bad.

nannieroz11 you are very very early days and things so raw, you have done so well taking an IT course (maybe we can all pick your brains)! I am told that keeping very busy is the better way to try and move a little step forward, and recently I have found that is true, as when I have been absorbed in things, DH is still on my mind as he always is, but I feel that I am able to sort of do other things as well as think of him. But then suddenly I think!! ohhh I havnt thought of DH for a few mins (as I have been absorbed)and then I feel mortified !
ok best get on my way bye all.

nannierox111 Goosebumps indeed. How strange that we all have Llandudno memories. My husband loved it there. On our last visit (as I've mentioned already) it was a real trip down memory lane for him.

It was a long drive for us. I'm going to try and Google the Travel Lodge where we stayed.

I remember we were on the sea front one day and both wanted to go to the loo. I went into a Hotel but my husband was very conservative and set off up a steep incline to find a Gents'. I was out of the Hotel in no time and waited for him outside.

I remember seeing him coming back and noticing how thin he was and how heavily he was leaning on his walking stick. He was only 67 but suddenly looked much older. Alarm bells were sounding.

He was gone in less than two months time with cancer. So glad we had that last holiday together in dear old Llandudno.

Falcon yes I agree,,its almost a bit spooky isn't it! that three of us from different parts of the country (me from Lancashire) come together, "A" that we are widows and "b" that we all have memories of Llandudno, I do find that a little strange and I am a great believer in "Coincidences" I do believe that we are mapped out to meet certain people on our travels through life.

It must have been such a shock for you, such a short time for you to even make sense of anything, my DH had been ill for many yrs but kept going, but slowly deteriated over the last 5 yrs, but was still able to get up and dressed etc until many months before hand.

For you that last little holiday must be so painful to look back on, it sounds like your DH really wanted to go there and reminice and I hope that you find a little comfort in knowing that you actually did get there which must have pleased him.

oh! meant to say, I have put photo on of the "Arbour" shame were not all a bit nearer, we could have had an opening ceremony and a or

and....his other fav place was "Whitby in Yorkshire" used to love sitting watching the fishing boats come in and out.

Biker - I'm going to try the photos tomorrow.

My cousin lived in Lancs., she was a Health Visitor for many years in Liverpool. I really miss her. She lived in Saint Helen's and I visited her there many times.

I agree that people come into your life at times of need. We were walking about in Llandudno in 2012. I wonder if you or nannieroz were there at that time.

We have discussed in the bereavement group which is worse - losing a dear one suddenly or after a long illness. We decided that it's always a terrible shock no matter how it happens.

hug

Let's have a virtual "opening ceremony" bikergran cheers!

I have checked and our last visit to Llandudno was late Sept/early October 2013. We stayed in the Hydro Hotel and had a lovely time. The time before that we stayed in the Marine, hotel not that memorable, however, we met some lovely couples and enjoyed our stay immensely. Lovely memories for all of us I'm sure. Your photos are great.

Falcon I shall await with baited breath for your photos
Hey! 2012, just think we could have passed each other, who knows!
Hope you found some comfort from your bereavement group, as for a sudden death, or long term, I really don't know, I only know that even though DH had been ill for many yrs on n off, it still felt and feels like some one hit me on the back of the head with a sledgehammer then ripped half my heart out, it effects each of us in different ways. Perhaps we can chat about Llandudno sometime..

falconbird can't believe the similarities in our backgrounds. We had been married 44 years, DH was 67 when he passed. On our last little jaunt we went to Newquay and I noticed then how thin and slow he had become. That was 4 months before he died. I think we GN's are very lucky to have had such loving husbands. ((((hugs))))

nannie we stayed at the Marina myself, dh and my mum and dad, cant just think when it was may have been 2010, I have photo here somewhere of DH, my dad and brother sat outside the Marina Im sure, I shall now go and hunt it down and put it on my profile, or it will bug me all night.

I will have to do likewise bikergran. I'm almost certain we stayed in the Marine in 2010 but I will check and report back.

nannieroz we also had been married for 44 years!!!!!!

Oh gosh!! it sys 2007!! surley not soooo..long ago

Time sure does fly! We were in Llandudno on 7 November 2010. Stayed in the Marine Hotel. Our next visit was 27 September 2013, stayed in the Hydro.
I've got some lovely pics I wish I knew how to share with you. Beautiful views of Llandudno. Oh happy days

nannieroz11 You can share photos either on your profile or I think there is a thread (pictures) unless Iv dreamt it! it depends if you want to keep them private or shared, as I believe others anywhere can view them if you don't keep them private. I'm sure there is a way round and we can sort it out whichever way you want to do it when your ready to.

Lovely photos biker. Another one to add to the coincidences here ,DH and I had several wonderful weekends in Llandudno in the couple of years before he died. We chose to go there because it was fairly flat down by the beach and easier for him to get around. I too haven't been able to face going back there yet. Perhaps we should think of having a bereaved grans weekend away in Llandudno then we can all support one another with it?
I am hoping that when I finally return to my home once builders have moved out I can find my photos of DH. I am worried that I'm beginning to forget what he looked like.

Great idea sewsilver. I'm not up to driving to Llandudno but would make every effort to get there if a meet up was arranged. What d'ya think ladies?

Hi Grans,

I managed to upload some pics after a lot of sighing and struggling. I can't seem to find the button for adding a comment. Anyway the photos were taken at my youngest son's wedding some years ago, so we're all dressed up and I've aged by a few years

I will try and add a few more when my brain stops hurting.

The meeting in Llandudno sounds really really lovely but I've still got agoraphobia (shock of grief) but - maybe in time.... It would be lovely and very healing.

Ohh Falcon well done (yes it can get frustrating for the brain at times)
your photos are lovely, how nice to be able to put a face to a name and I will now picture your lovely smiling face when I post you both look very smart (and baby too)

Llandudno! well who knows, I must say it was going round in my head last night and Iv even looked at trains and how to get to Llandudno via train form here, bit of a long winded journey but would be worth it, I'm used to driving there so would have to have a think if it ever came up.
I hope that you will manage to overcome your phobia, and just take your time.

I suppose I had better go and get dressed, DD is moving house (again) soon so it's all hands to the deck.

have a decent day all

oh meant to say about the "captions" you are better putting the captions on as you put each photo on.... with me I had to move the photo I wanted to add the caption to, to the bottom of the page (or just use the photo that you already have at the bottom) click on the "edit photo) add your caption in the BIG box, then go to where it says position and click "top" then click save (just on the bottom where it says save/delete) see how you go good luck.

Great photos falconbird. Well done for persevering and uploading them. Maybe some time in the future you may feel ready to travel.

Have fun to day biker ....... don't know where your energy comes from!

I would love to travel but the problem is when my husband retired we went absolutely everywhere together in the car. We took our time and traveled all over the UK. It was fun. We went as far down as Land's End and as far north as Glasgow.

We got so used to each other's company and I can't bear to go too far now that he's gone.

Also I don't drive. But I think the Llandudno idea is great. I live in the W Country so it's a long way for me and I'd have to work out trains etc.,

Let's definitely keep it in mind.

Hope your days go well. I'm off to buy birthday cards and a rug for my hall.

The baby in the photo is now 4 years old! My husband did live to see her but sadly the second grand daughter was born after he passed away. Even more sadly, after DH died my youngest and oldest son fell out big time, so the little cousins have never met.

Just over two years ago we were a happy family. Grief does terrible things to people.

Stay strong.

I'm in the W country as well. Im in Portishead. Where are you Falcon?