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Its more real now

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Applegran Tue 08-May-18 11:08:05

I wonder how many other Gransnetters find that as you get older, it becomes more real that you will die. I know we don't want to think about it most of the time, but we also know it will happen. I have thought about how my children will manage the aftermath of my death - and I've always made sure I have a will. But there are so many other things they will need and I won't be there to say "Oh - just look in the kitchen drawer!" or "Its in a file labelled "finance". I've found Age UK's "Life Book" is a really good way to put together all the information the children (or executors) will need - either when you die, or if you cannot easily manage your own affairs at some point.
www.ageuk.org.uk/information-advice/care/home-safety/lifebook
In practice I used the Life Book as a guide and actually put all the information into a document on the computer. This allowed extra space where I needed it, and I can up date it easily. But Age UK has thought through the things that matter. I put it off for ages, but then found it wasn't really too hard to do, and it feels a relief to have done it.

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Fennel Sun 13-May-18 16:53:06

My ex died in January - he had been ill for some time, looked after by his second wife. It was a blessing really.
Our children had kept contact with him and all went to the funeral. Even my step daughter ( daughter of my dear husband now.)
They sent me some photos, and it was lovely to see them together again after all these years. We had custody of them all from a young age.
I almost wished I had been there!
His widow inherits everything, she deserves it.

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Floradora9 Sun 13-May-18 18:06:46

Yesterday going out to lunch with DD and DSIL I gave them an envelope with my wishes for my funeral .We all had a good laugh about it and it is now out of the way . It does not bother me as I will be oblivious to it all . I opted for a direct funeral so no service at all .

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crazyH Wed 23-May-18 00:17:24

Received the LifeBook today. Thanks Applegran xx

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Greyduster Thu 24-May-18 08:57:43

I have also received the Life Book, and find there is less space in there than I expected, but it will provide a place to start and let the children know where to find important stuff, in the event, as they are both reluctant to “have the conversation”!

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shysal Thu 24-May-18 09:14:10

Florsdora9, I have also opted for the direct cremation with no service. I asked for the funeral plan booklet together with the Life Book, but found that this option is not catered for. I received my Life Book but discovered that all their suggestions were already covered in the printed sheet that I have left in strategic places, so have not used it.

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