the kindest possibility is that he genuinely has forgotton, in which case you should be able to ask in a neutral voice for the cash you are owed, (Best if you have the receipt to show if he disputes) If there is the least resistance to paying and apologizing , dont comment if he asks you to buy more . Simply dont get it. any queries refer to unpaid bill and if he pays you in any way reluctantly add carriage and collection fee! But the main thing is that the concerns you have re the financial situation really need to be sorted. As you have retired it is a totally different ball game from when you were working. You need to get together and work out appropriate choice of way to move ahead. options could include 1. a housekeeping account from which all mutual costs are paid, for all the basics but such things as the wine are individual choice and paid for by that person 2. a recognition of the change of circumstances and therefore with you both at home a need to draw up a mutually agreeable way to go ahead. This starts by accepting your 50/50 share in dealing with chores. These can be divided in which ever way suits you so you may bargain dealing with the garden for doing the shopping or whatever appeals but make it clear that in no way are you prepared to do the majority of household tasks and that includes doing all the ordering of food or whatever. You could organise 1 day on 1 day off for meals or if he is being unco operative I suggest you politely suggest that you each do your own thing. A shared household pot of money for such things as paper bill groceries etc but then for a month just do your own thing make your own decisions , go in and out as it suits you and he does the same. Not to do this in a confrontational way but just give it a go and see what you both find appeals to you. At the end of a month or whatever time limit you want to use, have another meeting about things and see what is the way forward. At the least you should appreciate things about each other , but at best you will have recognised that this is a new country you are going into and find out a way to go together and enjoy it and learn new things. To leave things as they are seems to me to be the way to end up either totally embittered , or to lose all the pleasure you have shared together. Could it be that he has always been rather thoughtless or selfish and in a busy life you may not have noticed? If it is going to continue in this way without it being tackled and sorted out between you, I would think you may eventually split up. Better to make a decision yourself rather than just drifting into a situation that forces you to do something you may regret. But absolutely you are not there to provide him with support, services and pay for it as well. NO Way. Think of where you really want to end up. Speak to your closest friends who know you both and may tell you they have seen signs of this before or give you some other insight. Take time to think about it , write yourself a letter giving your reasons for what you want from life now and what you are prepared to do and not to do. Put it away safely and then when you are ready and calm call a meeting and sort things out. At least that way you will have been true to yourself and not just pushed into a situation by simply responding to what he is or is not doing. You will be taking control of your own life and this ultimately is what we all need to do to feel comfortable whilst respecting other peoples rights to do the same. Every good luck whatever you do