Son asking me if he should marry his partner

I don't find it strange for a son or daughter to talk to their parent, at all.

He does need to be aware of that biological clock ticking, though, to be fair.

When it comes to romantic relationships, parents and close relatives are not appropriate soundboards.

Healthy boundaries are necessary. Partners don’t sign up to have their personal relationships discussed and dissected by the other’s parents and family members. It’s not fair to them. My parents taught me this when I got married. I taught my daughters and thankfully my son is wise enough that I never needed to teach him. It’s a normal and healthy shift that becomes necessary when you become an adult.

I would encourage your son to voice these issues with the only person that matters—his partner. Encourage him to be mature and communicate directly. Encouragement him to own his own decisions. If they do end up getting married, do encourage him to see a therapist instead of running to mummy and daddy if/when they have issues. No good comes of extended family meddling in the relationships of middle-aged adults.

Whilst he may chose to tell you his thoughts about things, you should steer clear of making any comment as you are on a hiding to nothing. It is their lives and it is up to them to make their own decisions, but he is looking to you to give him advice and if he really needs your advice at his age that is very immature. Whatever you say , can come back to bite you later. Steer clear or just tell him to grow up. The only practical advice I would give is to have two pieces of paper. ON one write all the positives and on the other the negatives., folding the paper over after each comment. Put the papers away for a few weeks and then take them out and look at them and see what things group together and gives you some ideas. But other than that steer clear!!!