Im late to the party, being unable to post in the last few days
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When another, recently bereaved, poster was given a lifetime ban, I sent emails to GNHQ, stating that they had a duty of care, especially in the middle of a pandemic, to vulnerable, elderly posters, living on their own. I quoted their stock phrase, in the spirit of Gransnet, saying their action certainly wasn't and there was nasty manipulation going on by a few posters.
The repeated response I received was that they appreciated my concerns, what a good friend I was, blah, blah, blah, but reinstatement would set a precedent and it wouldn't happen.
To say I was raging, is an understatement.
I too miss EV, admiring her as a strong , loving grandparent and great grandparent, whose main goal in life was to support her family. We used to chat by PM and the characteristic I admired most, was that she was genuine and honest. Although I didn't always agree with her, I enjoyed her posts.
It's very hard to trust anonymous people on a site like this, it takes a long time to get to know them and to be able to trust, but she was a poster I felt was genuine.
As for reporting, resulting in a ban, I sometimes think GNHQ can be a little naive and they do not see that the real reason behind the reports is a deliberate desire to put the poster in a bad light. If a poster takes a dislike to you, you are powerless to change that, however the best way, IMO, is not to engage with them.
I always report spam, because I detest those who prey on the vulnerable, but I rarely report anything else. It needs to be pretty serious for me to do that. I prefer posters to see what has been said,
I really do hope that GN will reconsider. Even if they do so , it probably won't be easy, with a number of conditions imposed. However, if she wants back, EV will have to grin and bear it.
