Not in the spirit of Gransnet

Haven’t mentioned the queen yet. I see Andrew has agreed to pay up, I bet that pister off.

LauraNorderr

Haven’t mentioned the queen yet. I see Andrew has agreed to pay up, I bet that pister off.

I like that one very funny.

?? Just when I thought there's no other line on The pister - brilliant.

Belief in equality, in the rights of minorities and in intersectional feminism are at the core of my being

But the suggested changes to the law and language allow other minority groups to become vulnerable and they would affect safeguarding, women with learning disabilities and the choice in their care for example. This has been raised many times but is ignored or the old common sense will be applied approach is put forward. Unfortunately I have sat in enough best interests meetings to know that really isn't the reality at the heart of decision making

I do also think it is a shame you ignore me on other topics even though I have tried to engage you to show I have no hard feelings but here we are

I do often wonder, VioletSky -and others- how we can ever tell if somebody is ignoring us on a site such as this .
You can be busy, offline, laptop out of battery, away, out shopping, engrossed in a book, unwilling to get involved in a topic or just not in the mood for GN. Who is to say?
Years ago I remember somebody being castigated because they had not expressed “enough sympathy” for somebody going through an admittedly bad time on a particular thread. I know that they had been in touch both by DM and privately by email. So who is to say?

MayBeMaw

Anything is possible

Most of us are ignored for 90% of our posts or even 99% aren’t we ?

I think as I mentioned at the start this is the problem with these kinds of threads and the 'those posters' thing. It causes hurt and nobody knows who anyone is talking about.

I second that, MaybeMaw I have seen countless posts from people who thought that because their post hadn't received replies they were being deliberately ignored and sent to Coventry.

As well as your list of reasons, perhaps the post was a reiteration of something that had been repeated several times on that thread (it does get tedious giving the same responses over and over again to the same comments) or perhaps it was just that it hadn't caught anyone's eye strongly enough for them to be triggered to answer.

Or perhaps it's just laziness I often think oh I agree with that, that's just what I wanted to say, but I often dont bother to write that.

I am always a bit when some writes an identical post to you and is acknowledged but you are ignored.

Not really, I don't care

Good point JaneJudge.

Also, claiming a belief in ‘equality and the rights of others’ for oneself is something of a dirty trick, as it sets up a binary, and suggests that those who disagree with the point being made support inequality and don’t care about the rights of others.

It is that sort of behaviour (and there is a lot of it on ‘trans threads’) that makes me so vociferous on them. I am happy to be disagreed with, but not to be misrepresented, or to be ‘set up’ in that underhand way. I try not to be nasty, but I won’t sit back and say nothing when those tricks are played. It diverts from the topic, and I know it can be tedious when there is more argument about below the belt debating ‘tactics’ than about the actual issues, but what’s the alternative?

You right a good post on page one no replies and page two someone says the same thing and everyone replies to it ??

Sorry! I type slowly on my phone, and I missed several posts. My last one was in response to JaneJudge’s above which quoted trisher.

My goodness

No one on the trans threads is perfect

Lol

BlueBelle

You right a good post on page one no replies and page two someone says the same thing and everyone replies to it ??

Yes, that can be annoying- particularly when the post starts ‘I haven’t read the thread, but . . .’ and then repeats what you have already said, and gets lots of replies.

It’s the way of forums like this though.

I just said that

For the record VS did not call me a bigot or a Nazi, that’s not her style. Those who did know who they are. Can we draw a line under this now before there’s further unpleasantness?

Happy to draw a line

I really should avoid those threads entirely because there doesn't seem to be a way to just kindly say what I think without being dragged in to an exhausting discussion where no one is actually really listening to each other, just looking for bits to pick out and argue against

Spot on VS. I find reading them exhausting.

Germanshepherdsmum

For the record VS did not call me a bigot or a Nazi, that’s not her style. Those who did know who they are. Can we draw a line under this now before there’s further unpleasantness?

In the spirit of responding to others’posts, can I just point out that I did say you hadn’t ?

And JaneJudge ??

I just don't like being lumped in with others and I've had a... Let's just say... Bad reputation on gransnet that has spread to some quarters unfairly

I'll go fill the chip on my shoulder lol

I still have no idea what that saying means

Bad reputation? I didn’t know that. Not so far as I’m concerned anyway.

I've just looked it up

It refers to people putting a chip of wood on their shoulder and challenging others to knock it off.

I thought that it meant a chip missing out of your shoulder lol