Not in the spirit of Gransnet

Oh dear ? just re read my post from earlier about no one one saying hello to me on regular threads. What have I become! I’m a sixty year old professional woman and I’m acting like a sulky teenager ? I need to get a life!! Goodness me, feel like I’m back at school. Thanks for the ? by the way! But onwards and upwards to knicker problems, and the real world ?

Elegran

Blossoming Facebook is full of pisters. Also boasters and shitsters.

All social media is.

LadyGaga I sent you a pm

LadyGaGa
Don't worry about it. A lot of people are upset when their post gets missed, but often it is just because threads can move quickly - nothing personal.

I don't usually post on the 'chat' threads, as I'm not great at small talk, but they are the ones that always have hundreds of replies, so whereas you are less likely to be disagreed with, there are far more posters, and individual posts are more easily missed.

Why not post on more of the less general threads, where there tend to be fewer replies and you are more likely to get responses? You do sometimes need to have quite a thick skin, though. On my first (or definitely one of my first) posts on here I was told that the person I responded to 'couldn't be bothered' to answer my question, and that I should 'do some research' and find out for myself ?. It wasn't that I couldn't have googled - of course I could - but I was more interested in their opinion than the facts that are available to all, and I was just trying to join in.

I was going to say that it was water off a duck's back, (and I certainly didn't let it put me off posting), but I have remembered it all this time later, so it must have struck home. Some people are just naturally rude, but the vast majority of people on here are caring, kindly people. We all have different perspectives on all sorts of things, but most of us can disagree vehemently about one thing and be in complete agreement about another.

Blossom, No it certainly wasn’t you, I thought the pisters typo hilarious

JaneJudge

I remember when I first started posting, I think it was in one of the lockdowns and I upset someone unintentionally because I'd said something she thought was awful about <insert famous person of choice> and she followed me for weeks from thread to thread about it. At the time I was looking caring for my adult dd who requires 24/7 care and was just upset/frightened/exhausted and did think it was a bit OTT to take what I'd said so personally. Surely our members are more important than <insert famous person of choice>

I have let it go but surely we all should be mindful about other posters circumstances especially if they post something personal and upsetting. Beswitched, I don't know if I have got mixed up - so I apologise if I have but wasn't it you who posted about a problem with the hospital and your dying Mother and people just continually had a go at you? Things like that I find exasperating

Oh, it wasn't Nicola was it?

I've just been in trouble for taking the pister out of the saintly Nicola.

Beswitched

Callistemon21

Beswitched
I wasn't being unkind when I laughed at your typo pisters
I'm always making typos or being miscorrected by autocorrect.

bossy pisters
I loved it ?

Hi

Don't worry. No offence was taken. I laughed when I read it back myself

It's the word of the week, Beswitched!

Third time lucky, and this thread seems to be running well. I have just read it all, and can't see any knickers getting in a twist, although I've obviously missed a little kink in the middle somewhere!

Anyway, great last post Doodledog encouraging those less robust posters to post, although you are right to point out the pitfalls. However, I am not sure the chat threads are always the ones where you are less likely to be disagreed with? I agree about early contributions sometimes getting short shrift, and yes, you feel like walking around with your tail between your legs for a week! It is all very well being called a dimwit on a Politcs thread when you come out with something you didn't realise was silly at the time, but to then be followed onto other threads like Chat or TV by posters who seem to want to continue the attacks just isn't on. That does smack a bit of nastiness, because there are some areas where you might be far from being a dimwit.
Also, how many times do posters say "sorry" when they have got something wrong or got a bit aanoyed? I aways try to do that and am about to do so on an earlier thread. Having said that I did try to on one occasion and got told, "but you're not at all sorry, saying it doesn't mean it." Things said like that do strike home, so is it any wonder posters also remember who actually made the comment which hurt?

Is this the thread Jane?

www.gransnet.com/forums/science_nature_environment/1301437-Jane-Judges-Mice

Yet again, I've missed it all!

Well between the knickers and the pisters, the birdfeeding chicken keepers, the trollops and the Trollops I've read the thread from start to finish and you lot have cracked me up this evening ??

I know this is quite a serious subject really, but I think this is a great thread to show the more reticent posters how much fun you have have posting.

I'd had a couple of glasses of wine Callistemon so was a bit pistered myself

Grandmashe43 I'm one of the posters who tried to make jokes on here. I didn't mean any harm, I was trying to lift spirits and diffuse what seemed to be a very tense post in the hope that we wouldn't be deleted again.

I don't think I realised that people were wary of posting. I thought that's what people came her for to post opinon and learn from others. Well I've learned something today - they don't all post! I wish they would as I'm here for a wide range of thoughts and experiences.

Mostly on GN I find people clever, funny, interesting and supportive. Sometimes things get heated, but then you can speak immediately afterwards on another thread with the same person about something like gardens or dogs and they are wonderful.

Sorry again Grandmashe43.

* . . . but to then be followed onto other threads like Chat or TV by posters who seem to want to continue the attacks just isn't on.*
I couldn't agree more. I don't understand that mentality at all. I can very easily go from heated disagreement on one thread to being in full agreement on another (sometimes both at the same time). There is just no need to carry disagreements across threads, and doing so is childish.

I was trying to lift spirits and diffuse what seemed to be a very tense post in the hope that ...... I think several of us use that tactic on threads.

Beswitched

I'd had a couple of glasses of wine Callistemon so was a bit pistered myself

It's not wine o'clock yet Beswitched!

Although, it's not a bad idea

oh dear, got it now.
That was last night!

Mostly on GN I find people clever, funny, interesting and supportive. Sometimes things get heated, but then you can speak immediately afterwards on another thread with the same person about something like gardens or dogs and they are wonderful.
I hope that that is the true spirit of Gransnet, Coastpath although I know it doesn't always happen, sadly.

Coast path, thanks, yes I realise some were trying to lift the thread, but Ihoped it wouldn’t be just laughed off.
Anyway, I’m sure everyone who wants to has had their say, and here’s to the GN we all appreciate,and mostly enjoy very much.

You're right Callistemon21. I've had my knuckles rapped a couple of times on GN - probably deserved it really - and it's made me more measured, tolerant and polite (I hope) but not less bold.

On balance it's mostly a very good place to be is GN. I genuinely believe there are some great people on here.

I steer well clear of threads about transwomen, which can get very heated and nasty. I have been well and truly beaten up there and learned not to engage. No, I am not a transwoman or man!!!

MerylStreep

Is this the thread Jane?

www.gransnet.com/forums/science_nature_environment/1301437-Jane-Judges-Mice

thank you how do you search them? i wanted to post a photo of my greenhouse but couldn't find that thread either and also the one about the sparrow but it isn't all about me..

Germanshepherdsmum

I steer well clear of threads about transwomen, which can get very heated and nasty. I have been well and truly beaten up there and learned not to engage. No, I am not a transwoman or man!!!

I know I've said it before, GSM, but I do wish more people would engage on those threads. They do get heated, but would be less so if there were more voices. It is such an important subject, and much of what people are trying to say gets lost in the arguments.

I always agree with you though doodledog and you are more coherent than me

May I say I have really enjoyed this thread and sincerely hope no one has pistered their knickers while reading it.