3nanny6, which of my 'attitudes' is a problem for you?
I don't think I have responded directly to a post of yours, but I do disagree with the idea that if someone doesn't come forward immediately then they are either a liar or they should put up and shut up.
Have you never wondered if you could just possibly have been in the wrong? Said the wrong thing, put out the wrong signal, misunderstood something that was said, whether sexual or otherwise?
If you have, you might understand why a young and inexperienced woman who has been on the receiving end of 'unwanted advances' from someone senior to her, who had the power to have her written off as a troublemaker, and to limit her career forever might just hesitate and wonder whether to say something or keep quiet.
It is really only since the 'me too' movement that women have been able have any degree of confidence that they will be believed when they talk about incidents in the workplace that were brushed aside at the time, or in many cases to understand that these incidents were abusive.
Telling them that they are too late to speak up now, or that they should have been taught how to behave so that the incidents didn't happen is a slap in the face to these women and girls, particularly when it comes from other women, who could have been expected to be supportive.
That is my attitude, and I'm not ashamed of it.