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Don’t call me ‘love’

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Bridgeit Fri 10-Aug-18 17:21:53

What next, I have just read a brilliant article from Coleen Nolan, apparently Gatwick Airport staff have been told they must no longer call customers Love or Darling , she is quite rightly horrified & so am I .
It is the thin edge of the wedge IMO, what happened to freedom of speech & social interaction
Yes I know it can be said in a derogatory tone of voice, but generally speaking it’s harmless isn’t it?

FlexibleFriend Sun 12-Aug-18 15:25:10

As long as people are friendly and polite what is there to get annoyed about?
People seem to get annoyed about very minor things these days.
I get annoyed at rudeness but not at a friendly term and as for being over familiar it's just words their not touching you on the bum ffs.

Willow10 Sun 12-Aug-18 15:26:31

I'm in Northamptonshire too and was a bit taken aback when a tradesman called me mate! But then I just passed it off as a regional thing - we're all different and it's just what we are brought up with. I don't like madam though - makes me feel old (and a bit suspect about what they think my occupation is!)

Herbie9 Sun 12-Aug-18 16:56:01

I recently had a consultation with an eye specialist doctor who called me "Love" from time to time. I didn't mind as he was friendly and informative, although I think I would have preferred my christian name instead! Anyway, it was good to have a doctor who looked at you from time to time in stead of gazing steadfastly at their computer.

4allweknow Sun 12-Aug-18 17:06:21

In my part of the world it's "hen" used as an endearment. e.g. okay hen, are you alright hen. Drives me mad. Much prefer the "love" I've encountered in London and south east.

elfies Sun 12-Aug-18 17:13:08

Petal, Flower, Love ,Ducks what does it matter , from a friendly voice .
I'm getting to the age now where I find it lovely to hear a cheery voice and see a smiling face , so many people are in too much of a rush to even be civil.

Terri823 Sun 12-Aug-18 17:28:57

I don`t mind it at all. Reminds me when my Mum kept calling my son `duck` and he one day said `Nanny I`m not a duck`.{grin}

OldMeg Sun 12-Aug-18 17:43:15

No problems with any little endearment.

starbox Sun 12-Aug-18 20:31:05

I think it's lovely! What I DO object to is people in a professional setting who I've never met before calling me by my Christian name uninvited. You can't say anything or you'd sound pompous, but I really feel irritated by some young person (who I'm often paying) saying "Well, Sally, how can I help you?"

Mamar2 Sun 12-Aug-18 20:31:36

I'm from Yorkshire & use love quite a bit. Maybe a regional thing. Better than 'ay up cock' as still used with very broad speaking Yorkshire folk.

GreenGran78 Sun 12-Aug-18 22:45:00

When someone calls me “Madam” I feel the urge to look behind me to see who he is addressing. I don’t mind anyone calling me any of the above-mentioned names, in a friendly way. I hate it when it’s said in a patronising ‘humour the old lady’ voice, though.

codfather Mon 13-Aug-18 01:14:57

No problem with terms of endearment but very cautious when I'm addressed as "Sir!" Usually means I'm not going to get what I want! wink

Colvillefly Mon 13-Aug-18 03:27:33

Don’t like being called love or darling by young shop assistants at all. I usually say ‘I’m not your love or darling’ and walk off. Think it’s so patronising and rude.

Lindylo Mon 13-Aug-18 09:43:06

Well it's better than being called dear. That makes me feel so old!

sodapop Mon 13-Aug-18 13:28:05

Yes it makes me feel old too Lindylo.. I don't mind 'love' etc unless its used in a patronising way because I am an older person.

gillybob Mon 13-Aug-18 14:37:11

I’m a Geordie and can’t remember the last time I heard anyone use “pet” to address someone although it was quite common when I was young. These days there seems to be a lot of “hun” “honey” and “lovely” about . As in..... okay hun. No problem lovely.

Ameliarose Tue 14-Aug-18 10:34:08

In oz the lovely young things(dental assistants) call out your (Christian name not allowed to say that either)which I find a bit rude considering I'm 70+

Geriatric Wed 11-Nov-20 14:32:34

Ive just been called sweetie and honey by my cleaner,hate it if i say anything do i offend,

Blossoming Wed 11-Nov-20 15:10:47

There are some instances where it would be unprofessional but as long as it isn’t anything derogatory I don’t really mind.

Billybob4491 Wed 11-Nov-20 17:07:33

I call both my granddaughters sweetheart as I often get their names mixed up.

Notinthemanual Wed 11-Nov-20 21:20:34

BPJ Times are a changing apparently, we're moving on from "guys". A barman called me "Dude."
Judging by the way he slunk away - I must have looked as if my head was about to pop.

dsc71 Sat 14-Nov-20 19:38:53

My daughter hearing my father calling her younger cousin ‘pet’ , muuummmm, I’m grandad’s pet! Me: I think I was grandad’s pet first. My mum ‘I think you’ll find I was the first’ smile

Shropshirelass Sun 15-Nov-20 09:33:07

I must admit that I don’t like the term. My DH uses it, in fact he says, ‘you OK lover?’ I hate it and it really irritates me. I have a name, please use it! Years ago when I was about 6 a Scottish business associate of my Dad’s called me Chick - I hated it and replied that I was not a chick! This must be when my hatred of it started!

B9exchange Sun 15-Nov-20 09:42:14

I don't mind too much being called 'love', but I hate the patronising 'young lady'. 'Darling' feels uncomfortable, I don't even call DH that.

The first time I was addressed as 'Madame' instead of 'Mmselle' in France I was really distressed, old age here we come! grin

Lucca Sun 15-Nov-20 09:52:46

Colvillefly

Don’t like being called love or darling by young shop assistants at all. I usually say ‘I’m not your love or darling’ and walk off. Think it’s so patronising and rude.

Seriously ?? They’re only trying to be pleasant, May I say unlike your good self.

boodymum67 Sun 15-Nov-20 13:09:48

good job you don't live in Yorkshire!