I don’t think an alcoholic would drink what you drank. I don’t feel you drank too much. An alcoholic would have had a hip flask of spirits on them all day.
This is such an outdated view of alchoholism. You can have one to two glasses of wine per day and be an alhoholic. It all depends on “need”. Please do some research.
Note: this is not me saying OP is an alcoholic.
OP, you’re in a tough spot. It sounds like a hard day. You and your daughter need to have a good conversation about both of your needs, and expectations.
That said, I think it was petty not to get her water.
Kate Garroway-Care at home costs