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Paying for adult children and family to visit

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Lucy125 Wed 24-May-23 16:54:01

My husband and I have been together for 20 years. He has a 37 year old daughter who likes to visit twice a year. She brings her 3 children and spouse on these visits. The problem is my husband pays for their plane fare, entertainment, food, clothes and toiletries. They don’t bring clothing because they don’t want to pay for checked luggage. We are nearing retirement and this is a big expense for us as it gets well over $1000 for these visits. We ourselves don’t go on vacation and I resent having to pay for someone else’s. I’m feeling very frustrated and feel they are old enough to foot their own travel bill. Desperately looking for advice.

Dinahmo Fri 26-May-23 16:34:05

Callistemon Ryanair flights can start at under £20 if you don't take any luggage, other than a small bag (ie handbag)

If you pay for priority it's between £6 and £30 for 2 cabin bags.

A 10kg check in back is between £12 and £25 and a 20 kg bag is between £18 and £50.

If you want reserved seats, the price depends where in the plane that you want to sit - front rows , sets for long legs and you must reserve if you want to sit together. If you don't want to pay for special seats you will be allocated a seat during the final 24 hours before departure.

All the above prices are for one flight.

My DH moved to France 18 months before I did. I used to fly over frequently and used to pay around £10. I had a hessian Tesco bag that I used to take my clothes in which would squash under the seat in front. Those days are long gone.

Norah Fri 26-May-23 16:46:24

Dinahmo

Callistemon Ryanair flights can start at under £20 if you don't take any luggage, other than a small bag (ie handbag)

If you pay for priority it's between £6 and £30 for 2 cabin bags.

A 10kg check in back is between £12 and £25 and a 20 kg bag is between £18 and £50.

If you want reserved seats, the price depends where in the plane that you want to sit - front rows , sets for long legs and you must reserve if you want to sit together. If you don't want to pay for special seats you will be allocated a seat during the final 24 hours before departure.

All the above prices are for one flight.

My DH moved to France 18 months before I did. I used to fly over frequently and used to pay around £10. I had a hessian Tesco bag that I used to take my clothes in which would squash under the seat in front. Those days are long gone.

OP stated she is in USA. No Ryanair involved, I don't believe.

Cheap flights abound in USA. The carrier we use allows a free bag.

ExDancer Fri 26-May-23 17:03:32

As far as I can see the OP ( Lucy125 ) has not posted since Wednesday.
This smells of a (very clever) wind up.

Callistemon21 Fri 26-May-23 18:08:19

Dinahmo

I've only flown once with Ryanair. Yes, we paid for a piece of hold luggage on top of the fares (not that cheap either!)

We were told in the queue just before we boarded that there was no room for hand luggage, it would have to go in the hold so people were unpacking, scrabbling around for carrier bags to put medication, jewellery in before hand luggage went into the hold.

I think the OP is in the USA.

Dinahmo Fri 26-May-23 18:59:50

I realise that the OP is in the US but I thought that you were commenting upon the price in general, hence the Ryanair info.

Cambsnan Fri 26-May-23 19:30:17

Do you have children or grandchildren of your own? I probably spend thousands on mine but as it is spread over the year it is not so noticeable. If they lived near and you saw them weekly and paid for little things it would add up over the year.