Hope you don't think I am crass, but I do need advice

So very sorry to read your sad news grandtanteJE65. Sending a hug. x

So sorry to read of your husband’s death. So hard for you and your son and all family and friends 🕯

My thoughts are with you and your family at this deeply sad time.

Oh dear. To suffer loss is an unavoidable part of the human condition. We all have our own way of managing it, and I'm not going to tell you and your DH how to do it.
When we knew my DH was dying, we did tell everyone and we were both so grateful for the love and support of AC and their spouses, also of friends near and far and his former colleagues and employees.
We spent lots of time remembering our life together and recognising how fortunate we had been. Eventually, when death was near, he mostly just wanted me to read to him.
One thing about cancer is that people do get the chance to say the things that need saying. My DF died suddenly from a heart attack, so that he and my DM never had that opportunity.

I’m so very sorry to hear of your loss, Grandtante*. 💐

What a shock for you all grandtanteJE65 after your more positive posts just a few weeks ago.
So pleased you are able to say he died peacefully and had seen his son.
I hope you have good support around to help you xxx

Grandetante I send heartfelt condolences for your sudden loss.
You have a lot to do now. But I know that we widows will be there to offer any support we can.

So sorry for your loss, grandtante. Sending sincere condolences

Grantante, So very sorry for your loss, glad he saw his son. My late husband was I’ll St this time of year with terminal cancer, which he wouldn’t let anyone know about, the worst time of our lives, he died just after Christmas, I cried when I read your news, it’s like no other feeling isn’t it, those that have experienced such loss understand, the way I cope now is not to go back to those dark days in my head. Take just one day at a time, one step in front of the other and most of all be kind to yourself. You did your best and he had you always by his side.I
know you don’t think so at the moment, but you will eventually smile and remember all the good times, that hole inside doesn’t really heal completely, but you live round it and find joy in life.
God bless.

My sincere condolences grandtante, to you at this very sad time.

Those are lovely words that Rosiesmaw has shared.

My sympathies grandtante as there's nothing more worrying than coping with a diagnosis as a partner.

There's a book called 'Selfish pig's guide to caring' by Hugh Marriott (not that I'm saying you're a selfish pig) and it has lots of practical advice to those in your position.

Also support groups are excellent- they can give practical help and a shoulder to cry on - both much needed.

My best wishes to you both.

LBC, grandtante’s husband has died. Obviously you haven’t read the posts just before yours. I hope you apologise to her. This is the worst example of not RTFT I have ever seen,

Sorry, my apologies.

So very sorry to hear of your sad loss and send you my deepest sympathy . I hope the messages from GN will give you comfort .

So very sorry Grandtante.

There are no words that can be a comfort just at the moment except maybe that your dear husband is at rest and doesn’t have to struggle anymore. Take care of yourself if you can for a bit now.

So sorry Grandtante my condolences to you and your family. Take heart that it was a peaceful ending and that you and your son were with him . Take care of yourself .

Sending my condolences to you and your family Grandtante 💐

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Grandtante, I can't say anything that hasn't been said by others but can only add how sorry I am to read your news and that Mr GT lost the battle so soon. Take care of yourself now and know that, however dark it is right now, there will be light and sunshine again one day. ((Hugs))

@ Ali08 - FFS, RTFT

We have now had two instances of people not RTFT, in the circumstances it’s very upsetting that they haven’t bothered to do so.

My condolences grandtante thoughts with you and your family.

Sincerest condolences Grandtante to you and your Son.

My sincere condolences grandtante 💐
May you find comfort from your memories of special times you shared.

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