Calling women by a Mrs title ... & commenting on what they wear.

BigMamma

I always was and always will be proud of being called Mrs.

I so agree, old fashioned or not. I was so proud to be Mrs R, but then, I had the best husband in the world (in my opinion, of course!)
Now that he has died, being called Mrs is even more precious to me, and I don’t care if anyone thinks it’s stupid, demeaning etc. it’s right for me!

Wyllow3

Callistemon213

Our family surnames were presumably our father's surnames.

Unless we had very progressive, forward-thinking mothers.

My DS has my surname, and his Dad's surname as middle name. We always told him he could change it if he wanted.

Willow3
I love that idea! How clever. Also, it will presumably sound double-barrelled, so rather upmarket too!

Our children had both our names without a hyphen

For a while, it was a thing that a couple would take part of each surname a.nd blend them.

Me and my bloke would have been Mr and Mrs Bland.

My friend’s son and his wife blended their last names to create a new shared identity. Their oldest child starts high school in September - they’re a happy couple with three lovely children taking the new name forward. I wonder what they’ll do with their name if they marry or hand fast
Friends of mine chose a new shared last name when they married in their fifties. They divorced within a few years and she kept the name

I've always thought what a pain it would be to ensure officialdom get the gist of something like that.

In Wales, children often have their father or ancestral name as their second name, it’s a patronymic system.
Hence, Rhun ap Iorwedd the Plaid leader is Rhun, son of Iorwedd.

Up in the Highlands where the ex lived, boys had their father's name.
I'm not sure about girls.

How small-minded that sounds! A married woman should be addressed as 'Mrs Whatever', unless she prefers to be known by her maiden name.

Crossstitchfan

Wyllow3

Callistemon213

Our family surnames were presumably our father's surnames.

Unless we had very progressive, forward-thinking mothers.

My DS has my surname, and his Dad's surname as middle name. We always told him he could change it if he wanted.

Willow3
I love that idea! How clever. Also, it will presumably sound double-barrelled, so rather upmarket too!

I couldn't have called my son by empty maiden name, he would have got horribly teased 😃

My father had an unusual middle name, he never commented on it. My mother just said "Your Dad's middle name is a funny one". I found out years later, researching family history, that it was his grandmother's maiden name and a Huguenot surname.
I wish I'd known.

empty???
my!

Thanks autocorrect.

Casdon

In Wales, children often have their father or ancestral name as their second name, it’s a patronymic system.
Hence, Rhun ap Iorwedd the Plaid leader is Rhun, son of Iorwedd.

There were quite a few men where I worked who were ap .....I thought it sounded strange for their wives.

Most women don’t use the ap, just the surname, but I’ve heard them use ferch or verch for daughter of. It’s usually an ancestral family name now- we’ve got one, which is used as the second name of all the boys in the family, going back hundreds of years. It’s a really interesting subject I think (but I know I’m a nerd).

'Mrs' and 'Mr' are slightly disrespectful nowadays. For instance 'Mr Hitler ', 'Mr Putin ', 'Mr Netanyahu', ' Miss Minogue'.

It's customary to call a public personage by first and second names unless you want to poke fun at them.

(I liked Mrs Sunak's dress which showed clever symbolism and good taste. I'd have liked it better had she given her money to poor people and worn a charity shop bargain)

I never use my Academic title unless it's necessary. It seems big headed and boastful. (Also, I don't claim to reside in two different cities according to whether or not it suits my 'tale').
I use my forename and surname (which oddly enough is the same as my husband's surname)
I'm quite happy to be referred to as Mrs, but absolutely hate Ms, it means nothing!

Casdon

Most women don’t use the ap, just the surname, but I’ve heard them use ferch or verch for daughter of. It’s usually an ancestral family name now- we’ve got one, which is used as the second name of all the boys in the family, going back hundreds of years. It’s a really interesting subject I think (but I know I’m a nerd).

The women I knew did use the ap. It is an interesting subject. I must be a nerd too.

I think I read somewhere that Ed Balls found his surname an opportunity for a certain amount of piss taking from his peers when he was going through school, which is never nice. Hence some or maybe all of his children have opted for Yvette's surname "Cooper" I kind of think that makes sense, if the mother has a nicer sounding surname, then go with that for the children.

biglouis

*I have never used my academic achievements in my title, (and there are a few), other than in a job application. I find it unnecessary and slightly boastful.*

How very old fashioned.

Its something I earned by my own efforts rather than a label which society has stuck on to me, like Mrs. Mrs would imply I am some man's property. No man has ever owned me or ever will.

Do you really think that’s how marriage is viewed in the 21st century?? I don’t know any woman who belongs to her husband or any husband who owns his wife.

How very old fashioned.

I was happy to take my husband’s name when we married as it was my mother’s maiden name and it went very nicely with my Christian (I’m happy with that as I am with fore or first) name.

As for needing to use my academic title to make a statement, I find that a little sad.

If I had a doctorate I would certainly use Dr rather than Mrs. Something to be proud of.

I do have a doctorate but hesitate to use it. I'm not a medical doctor so feel a bit sheepish about using it.

Juggernaut

I never use my Academic title unless it's necessary. It seems big headed and boastful. (Also, I don't claim to reside in two different cities according to whether or not it suits my 'tale').
I use my forename and surname (which oddly enough is the same as my husband's surname)
I'm quite happy to be referred to as Mrs, but absolutely hate Ms, it means nothing!

I never use my academic title either, mainly cos I don’t have one.But good for you for not using it at every available occasion.
I have reverted to my maiden name since divorce.

I don’t use mine either.

I rather enjoy being mrs last name. It’s who I am after all. My daughter is often called mrs and doesn’t seem to mind nor do my daughter in laws. In fact my newest daughter in law ( married a year now) always comments on how much she loves getting cards address to mrs so and so.

One of my daughters never uses her doctorate as a title,either. Neither does my husband. One of the reasons is people assume it is medical and start to ask for advice!

Bumface

I am not sure about the practice of women using their maiden name (often their father's surname) in front of their husband's surname. In the case of me and DH it would not have worked and would have looked comical. I suppose it works with some name pairings and it sounds posh, so why not?

ah, now we understand your username; it's an example of simply combining your surnames, when you married mr face ?