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Am I too old to show my cleavage?

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annodomini Sun 15-Aug-21 18:24:34

For years I have been hoping that I'd lose enough weight to wear my favourite dress. I bought it originally for my 70th birthday. Now past 80, I tried it on today and it fits perfectly. However, it does have rather a low neckline. Though I say it myself, I still have a good, unwrinkled cleavage, but at my age, will I look odd if I wear it? Or should I just put the dress on Ebay and buy one more befitting my age?

Kalu Sun 15-Aug-21 23:34:13

You love the dress, it fits perfectly. Just wear it anno. No reason at all why you shouldn’t. Enjoy being ‘dressed up’ again.

Esspee Sun 15-Aug-21 23:44:50

My son referred to my shorts as not being “age appropriate”. It made me even more determined to wear them. You like it OP, you wear it and enjoy.

Redhead56 Mon 16-Aug-21 00:30:08

I have never been happy showing cleavage personally but each to their own. I do remember my two well endowed grannies used to put hankies across the cleavage to cover up

hollysteers Mon 16-Aug-21 00:59:35

kircubbin2000 very judgmental and puritanical remark.
The rule either cleavage or legs is a good one to follow.
Legs for me, within reason…

MawBe Mon 16-Aug-21 04:09:34

kircubbin2000

Why would you want to show cleavage? Wear a vest or camisole and be decent.

Are you suggesting Annodomini is in any way indecent ?
Remind me which century we live in!

lemsip Mon 16-Aug-21 07:01:36

my sons would be shocked if I wore a low cut dress. They need not worry as I am not that well endowed.

kittylester Mon 16-Aug-21 07:10:38

Chewbacca

^Wear a vest or camisole and be decent.^

Or take no chances and wear a liberty bodice! gringringrin

And a chastity belt!!

Grandma70s Mon 16-Aug-21 07:16:29

My simple and no doubt unpopular answer is yes, you are too old.

The following paragraph is not addressed to you, but just an observation.

It’s all very well to say people should wear what they like and feel comfortable in, and up to a point I agree with that. On the other hand it means we have to look at people’s bulging uncovered upper arms, and t-shirts so tight that the rolls of fat underneath are visible, not to mention the over-tight trousers and jeans.. I do sometimes wonder if some people actually possess a mirror.

Marydoll Mon 16-Aug-21 07:17:14

In this day and age, women should be able to wear what they like, without having to defer to others or be judged.

The only reason I don't show any cleavage, is I'm so well endowed for such a small woman, that the natives would be traumatised!
Many years later, a doctor friend admitted to me that while still at school, at the age of seventeen, he and my other doctor friends used to describe my boobs as the eighth engineering wonder of the world!. They were surprised I didn't keel over. If Borrheid is reading this, it was the Irish one!

PS, I am proud to be wrinkle free!

Lucca Mon 16-Aug-21 07:33:04

Esspee

My son referred to my shorts as not being “age appropriate”. It made me even more determined to wear them. You like it OP, you wear it and enjoy.

Now that I find odd. I totally respect the opinions of both my sons and would certainly not deliberately go against what they said.

Annodomini
I don’t have a cleavage so can’t really comment. To me the important question is “is it a stylish tasteful pretty dress?”

Riverwalk Mon 16-Aug-21 07:41:06

For me it would depend on how low is low - are we talking a hint of cleavage or a full-on Diana Dors look?

yggdrasil Mon 16-Aug-21 07:43:05

wear a necklace with it. Not a thin chain, a proper noticeable one

Marydoll Mon 16-Aug-21 07:44:09

yggdrasil

wear a necklace with it. Not a thin chain, a proper noticeable one

Good shout!

Elizabeth1 Mon 16-Aug-21 07:48:07

Are you sure you’ve no wrinkles? anno if so just wear it and enjoy envy

Pammie1 Mon 16-Aug-21 07:50:57

You’re as old (or as young!) as you feel, so if you love it, wear it. If you feel confident about the low neckline, then that’s all you need - wear it and enjoy. Alternatively if you feel a bit self conscious, wear a pretty cami underneath. And Hetty58 - I have another old saying for you. If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all. That was just bloody rude for the sake of it.

Lucca Mon 16-Aug-21 08:00:13

Sophia Loren, 80

Juliet27 Mon 16-Aug-21 08:08:49

Yes, Sophia Loren looks wonderful. I find that my décolletage looks ok if my shoulders are back but if I have to move my arms together then the wrinkles appear ?

Juliet27 Mon 16-Aug-21 08:11:24

Yes welbeck I too wear some of my smaller shirts as jackets.

eazybee Mon 16-Aug-21 08:15:20

If you ask the question, it means you are not comfortable about it.
Can you add a small piece of matching material or thin straps sewn across the lowest part, so you can relax?

Sparklefizz Mon 16-Aug-21 08:19:40

Juliet27

Yes, Sophia Loren looks wonderful. I find that my décolletage looks ok if my shoulders are back but if I have to move my arms together then the wrinkles appear ?

Yes, exactly that .... and the creases are not appealing.

Zoejory Mon 16-Aug-21 08:22:11

We are allowed to wear what we want.

Lucca Mon 16-Aug-21 08:32:24

Zoejory

We are allowed to wear what we want.

Obviously but OP asked the question?!

Jackiest Mon 16-Aug-21 08:33:14

Don't waste your time worrying what other people think. Wear whatever you are happy with and whatever they think is their problem not yours.

Grandma70s Mon 16-Aug-21 08:34:55

I have always felt that cliché about not saying anything at all if you can’t say something nice would make for a pretty deadly level of conversation and discussion.

Lucca Mon 16-Aug-21 08:38:12

Grandma70s

I have always felt that cliché about not saying anything at all if you can’t say something nice would make for a pretty deadly level of conversation and discussion.

Indeed