moving on after bereavement

Learner hugs and

Learner and I hope you gain some comfort from the service and having your dear family around you today.

Learner thinking of you today and sending support and

A big warm hug for you learnergran I will be thinking about you this afternoon.

Learnergran will be thinking of you.
My cousin, who had time on her side (not a sudden demise) planned her own funeral which was really a celebration of her life and loves, favourite piece of music, poem etc.
A couple, to whom she was kind and who later became good friends, asked to add their contribution and told of the way she 'rescued them'.
Her family were told to wear something red, her colour!
I still found it almost too much to cope with....
I hope you 'get through' with the support of your lovely family ((((hugs))))

Learnergra - it has all happened so quickly for you. You must be feeling dazed and tired. Glad you have your loving family around you. Grief should be shared. Thinking of you ((((big hugs))))

A warm hug from me too Learnergran and to others feeling sad today

Learnergran
My thoughts will be with you today.Be kind to yourself and do what is right for you.

A big (((hug))) from me for anyone who needs it but especially for you Learner today. You will get through it with the support of your family and all the positive wishes from here.

We'll all be thinking of you today, Learnergran. xx

You'll be in my thoughts today learner

learnergran here are some [flowers ] not much but wanted to say like the others will be thinking of you on this very difficult day.

Whenim thanks for sharing that info about your sister, it sounds like that was the best thing in her case.

sorry learnergran try again

I hope all our members who have suffered a tragic loss will still keep in touch with us. When my father died, quite suddenly after being ill for a week and in hospital only one night, my mother was distraught but seemed to be coping well. He was only 59. Three years later, I had my 21st birthday party and she was very jolly, and enjoying a drink. After everybody else had left, she suddenly broke down and cried and cried. It was as if a dam of grief had burst. Shock can last much longer that we think and sometimes friends and even family expect bereaved people to 'move on' before it is possible.
I am sure all of us who have had, or still have, great sorrows, have found it a relief to be able to talk about it on this site. My own daughter was very understanding at first when her sister turned on me, but when I went to visit her she said I must not keep talking about it, as it wasn't doing me any good. She was wrong, as I needed to talk about it until the wound had healed a little. I was able to pour it all out here and received so much sympathy and good advice.
I hope you all do whatever feels right for you, even if your family might not understand it at the moment.

Learnergran I hope today contains a few smiles as well as sadness. There is something very comforting about being surrounded by your family and friends when you reminisce about your loved one

Dear Learnergran I don't expect you will read this in time, but from me too. I hope you can recollect happy times in the midst of your grief and that the family around you will lift you up and support you. Wishing you again in your life soon and sending what strength and comfort I can. xxx

Learner may the love of your family support and comfort you today

Learner - all with you today and in the months to come - keep in touch here.

Learnergran I hope the service today was one that helped you to start the journey of grieving , a mixture of tears and smiles. Thinking of you today and over the coming months

One more message on this thread, just to say that the support of GN over the last week, and especially yesterday, has meant more to me than I can tell you. Knowing that women of my own age, some who have been through this themselves and knew how I was feeling, some who may yet have it to go through, cared enough to try to help me through it was just so steadying. You sometimes hear mention of a sisterhood of women and now I know what that means.
The funeral went smoothly. More people attended than I had expected, with lots of nice things to say about DH and lots of stories of times past. I found I was able to talk about DH and it did help. The service ended with the playing of I'll Walk Beside You. I had worried that neither I nor the children would be able to get through this but actually it was lovely. anno says that grief should be shared, so if anyone would like to share it with me here is a link to a recording

www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pp5iZdWKaA8

Well done, Learnergran. Please stay with us now that you have found us - you will need all the support we can give you in the months ahead. If you feel you can't pour out your feelings to your family, there will always be somebody hear to listen and sympathise.

Learnergran you are so right, a funeral can be lovely, that's how I remember my Dad's funeral, as a lovely tribute to him. I'm sure your chosen music will continue to be a comfort to you in times to come. You are in my thoughts

How are you this morning learnergran?

Learnergran I to have just caught up on this thread...it's nice you were able to talk about your DH and you managed to get through the day, keep talking and keep posting take care
and to any others that are facing similar circumstances.